Monday, September 21, 2009

Monday

This exercise was supposed to make me afraid to eat things because I'd have to write them down. But somehow I am able to keep that fear far from my mind while I happily eat the worst of things.

It's Erik's fault. He's on deadline and wants to eat out all the time (with help from me...).


Today:
Decaf coffee with coconut milk creamer
1 Flax waffle
Blackened catfish with a small serving of rice and a big side of salad
AND QUESO AND CHIPS
Some of Erik's root beer...too much of it
Peach-mango tea with lemonade in it...too much of it
FRIED OYSTERS
1/2 Piece of CORN BREAD
3 HUSH PUPPIES
Salad
BANANA PUDDING

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Wednesday, Thursday & Friday

Erik has been working overtime to meet an important deadline on Monday. That has meant very little time off from my baby critter, but he is still a wonderful help when he can be. This is all relevant because I generally gather ingredients and chop things throughout the day in preparation for dinner, but then usually Baby freaks out and I'm unable to cook, so Erik will finish up, throwing it all together into some kind of meal. However, I am proud that I was able to make two dinners (mostly by myself) before noon two days in a row. Heeeellloooo, Crockpot! I never knew dinner could be so easy (and "tender"). I found what I think may have been the only two recipes in my Crockpot cookbook that didn't call for cream of mushroom soup. Aces.


Wednesday's Food Journal:
Decaf coffee (I think... I seriously can't remember)
Wheat chex of some sort...maybe?
An apple I think
Can of tuna with mayo and relish
Dark chocolate (I'm sure of it)
Beef with carrots and potatoes Crockpot Goodness


Thursday:
Same as above but with Chicken Provencal Crockpot Goodness for dinner


Friday:
Decaf coffee
Crockpot leftovers (the chicken one)
Fried oysters, cornbread, salad, couple of hushpuppies (from our favorite seafood dive)
Decaf soy cappuccino
Half a piece of tiramisu, few bites of other's desserts...
Decaf soy cappuccino (yes, two)


Today:
2 breakfast tacos (egg, bean and cheese on flour)
Decaf cap
Vegetarian Mediterranean plate (hummus, pita, falafel, salad)
Baklava (damn, forgot I had that...)
Jr. Mints & popcorn (watched a movie at home - have I mentioned my Jr. Mints addiction?)


Tomorrow:
Iceberg for breakfast
Ice for lunch
Air for dinner
And Jr. Mints

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Potluck Poison

OMG. Did I do that? I went to a potluck last night, loading my plate with mostly meats and veggies, avoiding the many breads and pasta dishes, only to have an entire plate of dessert - chocolate cake, and...another piece of a different chocolate red velvet cake and some kind of tea bread. Then I went to my grief group (the potluck was with all the different grief groups - I belong to Motherless Daughters), and on the way OUT, I had a different piece of tea bread and an Argentinian sugar cookie that someone insist I have since she proudly brought them.

Because I had not been in that setting since I was pregnant, I literally did not even think twice about what I was eating. When I was pregnant, I totally gave myself a free pass most of the time (except toward the end when I was trying to control how big the baby was getting - I cut out milkshakes and ice cream - big deal). And so I think I was just actually forgetting that I was watching my weight, until I got to the car and then I realized how disgusting I felt (and was). And then this morning I remembered again how disgusting I was having eaten all of that dessert. Instead of being like, "Damn, I shouldn't have eaten that", I should have been like, "Damn, I shouldn't have eaten that - my one goal of the day is to go on a walk!". But no, it was the last thought of the day, and as I looked outside, I saw the sun quickly going down, and one does not walk in my neighborhood (yet) when it's dark.

I had a nice reminder today of how much trouble I put myself through to clothe this overweight body. I have bought 4 maxi dresses from Target online - one in every color (you can't get them in the store - look them up - they are fab). And I took an infant to the tailor today to have a $25 dress hemmed (it hits the floor on me like 3 times over), and the hem will probably be $15. As if that's not ridiculous enough, the pitiful part is that I bought this dress because it has a very deep V-neck from which I hope to be able to breastfeed, but even more than that, I bought it because it goes all the way to the floor, hiding all my flaws and patiently waiting for me to either lose weight or stay the same. The last color that I bought was a size small - not because I am hopeful for the future, but because I waited too long to buy it (being hesitant that it was in red), and they ran out of my size. So now I have a "small" red dress that will look great for the holidays if I fit in it by then...so now is when I need to start seeing that as a small goal. BTW, the dresses run very big, so my original hope was that the small would maybe be just a little smaller and allow me to wear it pretty soon. But I am keeping it in the package and will open it only when I have made noticeable progress.

Oh, and did I mention that my infant screamed the whole time because she had to sit in her car seat while I had my dress pinned for hemming? And then I almost got in a fight with some big lady that was practically trying to take her out of her carseat as I told her that she was fine, THANK YOU...BACK THE F$%* OFF? My punishment for being ridiculous. Otherwise I would just be fitting into my maternity pants like every other new mother I know. Too bad I won't be caught dead in pants right now - you'd think I'd be doing more to change that.


Yesterday's Food Journal:
Decaf coffee with coconut milk-based creamer (yea! they finally have something other than dairy or soy!)
Whole wheat chex-kind of cereal (but organic with very little sugar)
1 Peppermint Pattie (have I mentioned my Jr. Mint addiction...OMG, make it stop)
Crazy potluck meal - meatballs, random veggie casseroles...
Most disgusting dessert plate ever
Hot red raspberry leaf tea

Monday, September 14, 2009

Monday

I think we set a world record this weekend on the amount of fried food we ate. The weekend started off with some of the best fried oysters I've ever had, compliments of our neighborhood seafood dive. And then the usual breakfast tacos and coffee (not fried, thank goodness). But then we had hot dogs and hand-dipped (fried) corn dogs (from a hip hot dog place in town), BBQ and pancakes. So I guess not everything was fried, but it seemed like it. At some point Erik turned to me and asked if we could aim to not eat something fried for our next meal. Maybe that was the meal I decided to pass on the fried ice cream...? Yummmm....

All in all, I was pretty bad. I continued to be bad today. At some point, I realized that I was looking a little thinner in the face, and ridiculously, that always seems like a pass for me to be bad instead of motivation for me to keep it up. So whatever little progress I made, I surely stumped it with my past week/end.


Today
Leftover salmon with veggies
Handful of Jr. Mints (don't ask - recent addiction that's returned)
Few squares of dark chocolate (70%)
Spinach salad with ranch dressing (and veggies, sunflower seeds, some grapes)
Green bean salad
Some random samples from Whole Foods (turtle cheesecake, vanilla cookie)
Hot red raspberry leaf tea with a drop of honey

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Ummm...I'm kind of sucking.

Yesterday I reported that I ate sautéed squash and flounder for dinner. But I wrote that before we actually had dinner, and that is not what we had. Instead, we had the beet orzo AGAIN and Caesar salad with spinach (AGAIN). And then I had some hot tea (with nothing in it). I felt the need to correct that because I had a highly sugary and carby meal instead of the one I reported. We still have a ton of it left, and now Erik can't eat it because we have discovered that maybe instead of suspecting blood in his urine and stool (I know!), that he may be part of the 40% of the population that experiences pink/red pee and poo after eating beets. Too bad the Dr. said to give the beets a break so that we can tell if that's what it is - it was just getting fun (so pink!).

Also, I did not walk last night. I did not walk today. I did not walk tonight. Though it has been threatening to rain all night (it rained today), I know I could have gone and still I chose not to. Instead I chose to catch-up on email and blogging while my hubster had Stella, and to eat a rose cream (my absolute favorite), and to have a glass of iced tea with part limeade. Even now, Erik has Stella and I could be doing a yoga DVD or something, but instead I am blogging about how unmotivated I am after not having been on track for over a week (after having only walked for like 3 days in a row before that. So f'ing lame! I am just not that busy!).

And of course, here comes the weekend. Not only do I give myself a pass on the weekend to eat whatever (moderately), but I also pass on the exercise, too, because I hate spending the time I have with Erik and Stella as a family away from them. But I don't know... Instead of sending Erik to buy breakfast tacos and coffee from our neighborhood coffee shop this weekend, maybe I'll fast-walk there myself (and have him come get me so I don't have to carry back two cappacinos...?).


Today's Food Journal:
Decaf with cream
1 Hardboiled egg
Beet orzo (and we STILL have some left...Lord)
4 (?) Squares of 70% dark chocolate (usually it's 85% but I splurged)
Flounder with chili lime sauce, coconut rice (with sugar) and steamed carrots and broccoli
1 Rose cream
1 Iced tea with limeade

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Holiday Weekend

So I basically made a very convenient rule of eating whatever I want on the weekends and not having to record it. Needless to say, this past weekend was a holiday weekend, so not only was it filled with hanging out with people and eating things I wouldn't usually eat, but it was also a longer weekend (one extra day of fun for me!). I didn't binge or anything, but I certainly wasn't being good. We had a potluck on Saturday, and all the yummy scones, cookies and brownies that weren't eaten were left at our place. I was pretty much grabbing a cookie whenever I wanted. While this doesn't make up for it AT ALL, we tended to eat fewer meals this weekend because of strange sleep schedules and just being unorganized. One meal was actually leftover crudités from the party - not so bad, right? The problem is that I think I'm already not getting enough calories, and the ones I'm getting lately are not good calories. While it may even out with the count, it doesn't even out blood-sugar-wise.

Leading up to the party, we did some projects around the house that took the place of my walks. So it's been a good 7 days that I haven't walked (because I also didn't walk last night and it's probably going to rain tonight). If the weather cooperates tonight, I will try to get back in the saddle. If not, then maybe we'll give it a go in the AM (but definitely some time tomorrow).

The five challenges of walking lately:
1) It's too hot during the actual daytime (still over 100 degrees), 2) We sleep too late in the AM sometimes and miss the cool part of the day, 3) She won't walk for longer than 5-10 mins in the stroller and another 5-10 minutes on me, and I can't walk fast when she's on me (like in a sling), 4) If we do ANYTHING else in the evening, then it takes the daylight and kills my walk, 5) If Erik can't watch her, I can't go.

Some days I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and think that my face seems a tiny bit thinner. And then some days I am still utterly disgusted with my profile (or even straight-on). My arms should be a real test for me because they have NEVER been fat before and they are pretty fat now. It seems like it's probably a pretty easy place for me to lose weight, so maybe I'll watch them more closely. However, I've read that doing arm exercises can hinder or even stop milk production, so maybe the arm fat is related to breastfeeding/pregnancy somehow, and hence, may stick around until I'm done? Who knows...

Yesterday's Food Journal:
Serving of flax waffles (2 frozen waffles)
Crudités (raw veggies with ranch dressing)
Beet orzo and Caesar salad with spinach
1 Lemon iced cookie
1/2 chocolate rose cream (can you tell we watched a movie)


Today:
Cup of decaf with cream (leftover from the party...we'll see how it sits with Stella)
1 hardboiled egg
1 fish taco on a flour tortilla, and the inner contents of another without a tortilla
Salad
Flounder with sautéed squash
And will probably have some dark chocolate before the night is through

Thursday, September 3, 2009

It's Going Well

I realize that mostly anything I like or dislike about my looks often starts with my weight. If I am at my ideal weight and I have a bad hair day, it's just not that bad. But if I have a bad hair day when I'm chubbed-out, it ruins my day - I feel incredibly ugly. I also realize that my taste is completely different from what I'm usually able to actually wear. I often walk out of a store with a purchase that better suits my figure rather than one that I actually like. For this same reason, it's impossible for me to shop at thrift stores - I have to have a very specific cut of clothes or it just doesn't work. But my personality is much more bohemian and airy, and I am a thriftaholic, so it's not much fun when my body limits my clothes options. I also tend to wear more make-up when I'm overweight. When I'm thinnner, I prefer the natural look, and I can just dab on some lip stuff and feel great. But when I'm chubby, I feel like I have to bring out my eyes and my lips to distract from the rest.

Today I went to get my haircut after not having it cut since...October! Many things play into why I went so long, but the neglect is actually besides the point. What I have been discovering since I was pregnant is that my hair is growing out straight - something I always wanted but now I don't. It's so flat and the body of my hair has always shaped my very round face. The flat straight hair just makes me look chubbier! So the stylist did what she could to show me that there are many tricks to making straight hair full-looking, but she failed to convince me. I looked totally lame when I left there, not to mention the fact that she used three things I don't use (some I don't even own): a hair dryer, a curling iron and hair spray. The other sad thing is that I've been growing it out for literally years (slow growing hair), and she had to take most of it off because it was so "tired". Short flat hair...at least it could have been long and flat, but now it's SHORT and flat.

Now I feel like the pressure is really on. While slow and steady still wins the race with weight, I feel like I'm racing my hair to grow out, needing to be thinner before it's grows more flat with each passing day! What could be more ridiculous, you say? I admit, not much. But such is the obsession/anxiety of being unhappy with my weight - it affects everything.

Sadly I am finding that I don't always have "free" time (free hands, really) everyday to enter in my journal, but I want to do it daily, so I'll work on it.

Today:
Decaf coffee with rice milk
1 hardboiled egg
Handful of grapes
1 can of tuna with mayo added (I was heading for salad when I found a worm...)
Half a serving of salt & vinegar potato chips
Salad with grilled zucchini and portabelo
Half of a chocolate rose truffle (hubbie bought them for me...my favorite)
Lots of water and decaf iced tea

Also, I didn't get my full 30-45 minute walk in today, but I did walk in 2-15 minute stretches to a friend's house and back in 100 degree weather with a baby strapped to me, so I think that burned a few calories. Last night I walked for over 45 minutes - it was heaven!

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Starting Off

I hope this doesn't become a project that I never finish, because not finishing will have larger consequences for me this time...

I've created this blog to help myself lose this baby weight! While I do not think it's interesting to anyone except for maybe other postpartum moms in the same position, I need a place to keep a food journal. And I need a place where I can be accountable for what I'm eating. What better motivation than to tell the world that I was either good or bad today? The world doesn't really care what I eat, but there's something about putting it in black and white that, I hope, will make me care.

My goal is to get back into the clothes I used to wear. I realize my body shape is different from the bones having spread from birth. I'll accept that when I can tell that's the case. But for now, the goal is to at least be able to see that I would have been able to put the old jeans on if my bones weren't bigger now...get my drift? I never weighed myself before and I don't want to start obsessing over that now because I believe that women's weight fluctuates a lot with menstruation, water-weight gain, etc., and I don't have energy to worry about pounds. But I have always been able to go by my clothes size. I'm happy when I'm a 6-8. While I don't know for sure, I think I'm probably a 10-12 right now (I'm wearing dresses, so who knows). I want to be able to try on my board shorts every week or two and determine if I'm making progress or not. Seriously, that's a good enough measurement for me right now. I just care about how I look, not what I weigh.

Yes, I'm breastfeeding, and they say that helps take off the weight faster, but seriously folks...I haven't seen jack from just breastfeeding - especially not the way I've been eating. And yes, it took me nine months to put it on, so I'm not expecting a miracle - just slow and healthy sustainable weight loss.

Background:
During pregnancy, I developed the habit of eating whatever I wanted when I was struggling with morning sickness. My mother also died unexpectedly when I was 14 weeks pregnant, so not only was I eating out of depression, but I was also eating a lot of fast food as we drove back and forth to her house in Houston, and then to her grave in Hico. Much of the baby weight was gained very early on (often typical), along with the general weight of the actual baby. Then after she was born, people generously signed up on our CareCalendar to bring food for a couple of weeks, so it was heavy rice and pasta dishes and casseroles for every meal.

Once our baby was about six weeks old, we were back to cooking and I was ready to start getting more serious. I started cutting out the sandwiches for lunch everyday, and the all-too-often burger for dinner (the organic burger stand here is way toooo good). I also quit with the banana bread breakfasts, or whatever other cake/bread-like thing that was around. And it was also out with the crackers in the middle of the night while I was up nursing. Oh, and I also cut out the dessert that I was having EVERY night. Once upon a time, our baby let us watch movies at night while she slept in our arms, and we'd enjoy M&M's, or cupcakes or whatever after dinner. No good...

I should also mention that I was in great shape before I got pregnant and I ate very well. Maybe not so much right before I got pregnant because I was buying a house and moving, but the many months and years before that. I've generally never worked out less than five times per week, and 98% of my groceries came from the farmers market. While I still shopped at the farmers market every single week while pregnant, I was eating and making a lot of heavy comfort foods (especially in the winter). I am no stranger to weight gain. For whatever reason, I gain weight incredibly easily. I'm very familiar with what it takes to get it off (essentially exercise and a low bread/carb diet), but I'm very out of practice. My willpower got lost somewhere back in October of '08.

What I'm Doing Now:
Now I'm eating hard boiled eggs for breakfast every morning, salads for lunch and a generally healthy home-cooked dinner (salmon, green beans and cous cous...stuff like that). I'm limiting myself to two desserts per week (usually on the weekends), but I have dark chocolate whenever I want (it's super dark - 85% - with hardly any sugar in it). My baby girl doesn't let me walk with her outside for very long - she just starts screaming after about 10 minutes, no matter if she's in a sling, a stroller, whatever. So I've started to arrange time for me to walk while the hubster watches her for at least half an hour, five times per week. This has only happened a few times but I'm working on it.

While the above is not much of a plan, it is at least in the direction of change.

Below is a crack at my first food journal entry (it will be super loose, as I can barely remember my own name sometimes these days...). Oh, and I should also mention that I am not eating how I would usually eat when watching my weight because I'm breastfeeding. My baby is showing some signs of food allergies, so I am avoiding things I usually love like cheese, yogurt (all dairy), walnuts (all nuts), soy, etc.

For inspiration, I may also periodically post some pics of me at the weight to which I am trying to return (hence the picture at the top of my blog)...

Yesterday:
Decaf coffee with rice milk
2 hardboiled eggs
Caesar salad with tuna (a whole can with mayo added)
1 apple
2 squares of dark chocolate
Food from Whole Foods: a few small falafel patties on a bed of salad with some blueberries and a small piece of watermelon

Today (so far):
Decaf coffee with rice milk
1 hardboiled egg
The leftover Whole Foods food (falafel and salad)
Handful of green grapes


Good luck to anyone who is joining me on a similar journey! I would love to hear from you if you are!